Taking Time For Yourself

Nice title to a blog eh? In the world of being a stay at home mom you'll find you're the last on everyone's list, not usually because anyone is making you last just because YOU make yourself last. Your child needs things, your husband/fiancee/boyfriend needs things. Everyone needs something and they all have deadlines except for you so it's easy for us to put ourselves down at the bottom. Here's a day in the life of this diva (typically) get up when my fiancee does, help him get his work stuff together, jump on laptop and complete homework, daughter wakes up diaper change, make breakfast, start cleaning, entertain child, iron work clothes/wash work clothes, make lunch, get daughter ready for nap, clean more while she's sleeping, daughter wakes up, diaper change, more entertaining, special projects, etc. Prep dinner, cook dinner, eat together when my fiancee comes home, clean up dinner, load dishwasher, give daughter a bath, pick up toys, get daughter ready for bed, go into room watch a tv show or movie and fall asleep. Repeat the next day. Sometimes it changes but that's mostly my day. Somewhere in between all that I am lucky to find time to shower. YUCK. Lately i've been hanging out with my best friend a lot and I admire her in so many ways but one of the most important things I love about her is how disciplined she is. She always takes time to make herself look presentable but she also doesn't have a kid so I have to remind myself that she has a bit more time for these things. It got me to thinking, I could make time for myself more so I have been. If I want to do my nails I do my daughters nails too. I have been making sure instead of snoozing in the morning I get up right away and shower before I do homework. When I put my daughter in the bath at night and I have to watch her anyways I let her play while I wash my face, moisturize, etc. Before I go to bed every night while I am watching a show/movie or whatever I pull out some heavy duty lotion and massage it into my feet to get my feet looking all pretty for flip flop season. I guess it's all about YOU making time for YOU. Don't make excuses, we still can do it and you know what? It makes you feel 10 times better about yourself. Somewhere along the way we all got pretty whiny and started hating anyone that looked better than us but instead of doing something about it we decided complaining was the better way to go. So from now on I am going to try to find ways to make myself a priority again, when you're a stay at home mom though you just have to be sneakier about it than most. I also need to get back on the treadmill again though it does make a great storage area I guess that's really not it's purpose and if I want to get my legs looking swimsuit ready I better get to it. Sigh. Okay maybe i'll complain a little then get on the treadmill :) Hey we're only human, just sayin'. I know there is a saying that goes "Good things come to those who wait" I think it should be reworded to "Good things come to those who are proactive" Go out there and work for what you want ladies!